Fellow readers (or bookies, as I like to call myself. Yanno, like a foodie with food, but with books), I have an issue.
Several, actually.
But this one has to do with book content. Ya see, I devour books like dragons devour sheep. I love mystery, horror, fiction, non-fiction, romance, sci-fi/fantasy, etc.
But what I don't love is a large part of the romance and the whole baby thing. Cheesus Crust, I think of the last five books I've read, here's the situation in three of them:
Boy meets girl.
Boy and girl date/hook-up/one-night-stand.
Girl gets pregnant.
Girl doesn't tell boy.
Girl is distraught over pregnancy.
Girl hides child from boy/moves away/stops seeing boy/gives baby up for adoption.
Girl 'forgets' boy.
Girl runs into boy again.
Girl has to tell boy of baby.
Girl, boy, and baby/child live happily. ever. after.
I understand that people want a happy ending. I get that since it's what sells, it's what gets written. It's just. fucking. annoying.
For such strong, powerful women, some of these characters are fucking wimpy once they find out they're knocked up. "Oh noes, what will I dooooo! I'm with child, but I will be raising this child alone (smacks fist in palm), for I cannot interrupt his life with this change!"
Bullshit. Sack up (or twat up, if you prefer). It took two of you to get into this mess, it's gonna take two of you to fix it. Put your big girl panties on and deal with this shit head on.
Does this annoy anyone else?
Steph
Tuesday, June 28, 2016
Tuesday, June 30, 2015
The Rainbow Connection...
No, not Kermit.
I have so many different friends, all with different views; from the hardcore Christians to the hardcore atheists, and every spot inbetween. So, here's my take and reasonings behind my support of all my fabulously flaming friends being able to get married like I did:
~1. This country was founded on religious freedom, meaning that I am free to practice my beliefs and you are free to practice your beliefs. Now, if you really want your special brand of religion to be the law of the land and make everyone follow your rules, remember this: so does ISIS. So do Muslims practicing Sharia Law.
~2. You think that they'll try to convert you? Dreamers, Comedian Nate Baimel made a very good observation: "they're not Jehovah's Witnesses. They don't spend Sunday knocking on doors asking who's read from the Book of Judy Garland.... They're not vampires, they can't convert you.... If the reason you don't want to be around gay men is because you're afraid they'll be able to talk you into being gay, then surprise! YOU'RE GAY!
~3. "But I don't want to explain to my kids why those two men/two women are holding hands/kissing/fornicating!" If they're fornicating in public, there's a bigger issue of what the fuck you're doing with your children and where the fuck are you taking them? The inability to explain things to your children when they're small will only get harder the harder the topics get, and can result in early promiscuity, 16 and pregnant, a host of sexually transmitted diseases, abusive relationships, and the need to wear Crocs and Spongebob pajama pants out to dinner.
~4. Even one of my outspoken Christian friends has posted this via Facebook:
-Eating blood (3:17) (medium rare steaks are out)
-Failing to testify against any wrongdoing you’ve witnessed (5:1) (if you've ignored the man beating his child in a parking lot for dropping a soda, you failed this one)
-Failing to testify against any wrongdoing you’ve been told about (5:1) (keeping it to yourself when someone tells you they've lied about something is a sin)
-Eating an animal which doesn’t both chew cud and has a divided hoof (cf: camel, rabbit, pig) (11:4-7) (again, no more bacon)
-Touching the carcass of any of the above (problems here for rugby and football and basketball) (11:8)
-Going to church within 33 days after giving birth to a boy (12:4) (I know some of you have children)
-Going to church within 66 days after giving birth to a girl (12:5) (some more than one)
-Having sex with your mother (18:7), father’s wife (18:8), your sister (18:9), your granddaughter (18:10), your half-sister (18:11), your biological aunt (18:12-13), your uncle’s wife (18:14), your daughter-in-law (18:15), your sister-in-law (18:16), a woman and also having sex with her daughter or granddaughter (18:17)
-Marrying your wife’s sister while your wife still lives (18:18)
-Having sex with a woman during her period (18:19)
-Having sex with your neighbour’s wife (18:20)
-Giving your children to be sacrificed to Molek (18:21)
I have so many different friends, all with different views; from the hardcore Christians to the hardcore atheists, and every spot inbetween. So, here's my take and reasonings behind my support of all my fabulously flaming friends being able to get married like I did:
~1. This country was founded on religious freedom, meaning that I am free to practice my beliefs and you are free to practice your beliefs. Now, if you really want your special brand of religion to be the law of the land and make everyone follow your rules, remember this: so does ISIS. So do Muslims practicing Sharia Law.
~2. You think that they'll try to convert you? Dreamers, Comedian Nate Baimel made a very good observation: "they're not Jehovah's Witnesses. They don't spend Sunday knocking on doors asking who's read from the Book of Judy Garland.... They're not vampires, they can't convert you.... If the reason you don't want to be around gay men is because you're afraid they'll be able to talk you into being gay, then surprise! YOU'RE GAY!
~3. "But I don't want to explain to my kids why those two men/two women are holding hands/kissing/fornicating!" If they're fornicating in public, there's a bigger issue of what the fuck you're doing with your children and where the fuck are you taking them? The inability to explain things to your children when they're small will only get harder the harder the topics get, and can result in early promiscuity, 16 and pregnant, a host of sexually transmitted diseases, abusive relationships, and the need to wear Crocs and Spongebob pajama pants out to dinner.
~4. Even one of my outspoken Christian friends has posted this via Facebook:
~5. For those of you who are adamant Bible-followers, here are some discrepancies that I'm pretty sure that EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU HAVE FAILED! Unless you’ve never done any of them perhaps it’s time to lay off quoting what Leviticus in the Bible tells you shouldn't be done:
-Eating fat (3:17) (no bacon, then)-Eating blood (3:17) (medium rare steaks are out)
-Failing to testify against any wrongdoing you’ve witnessed (5:1) (if you've ignored the man beating his child in a parking lot for dropping a soda, you failed this one)
-Failing to testify against any wrongdoing you’ve been told about (5:1) (keeping it to yourself when someone tells you they've lied about something is a sin)
-Eating an animal which doesn’t both chew cud and has a divided hoof (cf: camel, rabbit, pig) (11:4-7) (again, no more bacon)
-Touching the carcass of any of the above (problems here for rugby and football and basketball) (11:8)
-Going to church within 33 days after giving birth to a boy (12:4) (I know some of you have children)
-Going to church within 66 days after giving birth to a girl (12:5) (some more than one)
-Having sex with your mother (18:7), father’s wife (18:8), your sister (18:9), your granddaughter (18:10), your half-sister (18:11), your biological aunt (18:12-13), your uncle’s wife (18:14), your daughter-in-law (18:15), your sister-in-law (18:16), a woman and also having sex with her daughter or granddaughter (18:17)
-Marrying your wife’s sister while your wife still lives (18:18)
-Having sex with a woman during her period (18:19)
-Having sex with your neighbour’s wife (18:20)
-Giving your children to be sacrificed to Molek (18:21)
-Having sex with a man “as one does with a woman” (18:22) (here we go--the big one everyone is up in arms about)
-Making idols or “metal gods” (19:4)
-Stealing (19:11)
-Lying (19:11)
-Swearing falsely on God’s name (19:12)
-Cursing the deaf or abusing the blind (19:14)
-Perverting justice, showing partiality to either the poor or the rich (19:15)
-Spreading slander (19:16)
-Seeking revenge or bearing a grudge (19:18)
-Mixing fabrics in clothing (19:19) (You get a sackcloth! You get a sackcloth! Sackcloth and ashes for everyone!)
-Cross-breeding animals (19:19) (all of your designer dogs? against the Bible)
-Eating fruit from a tree within four years of planting it (19:23)
-Practising divination or seeking omens (tut, tut, astrology and all you horoscope readers) (19:26)
-Trimming your beard (19:27)
-Cutting your hair at the sides (19:27)
-Getting tattoos (19:28)
-Not standing in the presence of the elderly (19:32)
-Mistreating foreigners – “the foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born” (19:33-34)
-Cursing your father or mother (punishable by death) (20:9)
-Working on the Sabbath (23:3)
-Blasphemy (punishable by stoning to death) (24:14)
-Inflicting an injury; killing someone else’s animal; killing a person must be punished in kind (24:17-22)
-Selling land permanently (25:23)
-Selling an Israelite as a slave (foreigners are fine) (25:42) (so I can sell my niece? she's not an Israelite.)
Basically, if you're going to pick apart that it is an "abomination to lie with man as one lies with woman", might want to go through your closet and your pantry and your whole life, because you can't follow one Leviticus order and not the rest. I want you to tell me definitively how you can only follow one of these and still claim to be following the Bible and God's Word. Until you can do that, your argument is invalid.
~6. "Thou cannot remove the mote in thy neighbor's eye without first tending to the plank in thine own."
~7. I am a Libertarian. Yes, the government should protect the general welfare of her people--against outside tyranny, against outside harm; all else should be up to the states as a guideline and the individual. I have guns, I am all for legalization of marijuana, I am all for marriage equality. You don't want to wear your seatbelt? Don't. That is your right as an American to make that choice for yourself, as an adult.
Gary Johnson, my vote for President in the last election, and will be this go-round released this following statement in response to the SCOTUS ruling:
~8. Marriage is a legal contract between two people. Holy Matrimony is a religious contract between two people and God. Separation of church and state? Easy. It has nothing to do with God unless you want it to.
~~
You know what? To most of you raging Christians, nothing I've said makes a difference. You'll still thump your Bibles and tell me that I'm wrong and that I'm going to Hell. I don't do religion. I don't do churches. I do God, the Great Spirit, the Goddess, the Divine Creator. S/He and I talk...well, I talk, S/He listens. And sometimes, S/He answers with a little bit of help that I so desperately needed.
So, if I am going to Hell?
I'll be sure to save you a seat.
Cheers,
Steph
-Stealing (19:11)
-Lying (19:11)
-Swearing falsely on God’s name (19:12)
-Cursing the deaf or abusing the blind (19:14)
-Perverting justice, showing partiality to either the poor or the rich (19:15)
-Spreading slander (19:16)
-Seeking revenge or bearing a grudge (19:18)
-Mixing fabrics in clothing (19:19) (You get a sackcloth! You get a sackcloth! Sackcloth and ashes for everyone!)
-Cross-breeding animals (19:19) (all of your designer dogs? against the Bible)
-Eating fruit from a tree within four years of planting it (19:23)
-Practising divination or seeking omens (tut, tut, astrology and all you horoscope readers) (19:26)
-Trimming your beard (19:27)
-Cutting your hair at the sides (19:27)
-Getting tattoos (19:28)
-Not standing in the presence of the elderly (19:32)
-Mistreating foreigners – “the foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born” (19:33-34)
-Cursing your father or mother (punishable by death) (20:9)
-Working on the Sabbath (23:3)
-Blasphemy (punishable by stoning to death) (24:14)
-Inflicting an injury; killing someone else’s animal; killing a person must be punished in kind (24:17-22)
-Selling land permanently (25:23)
-Selling an Israelite as a slave (foreigners are fine) (25:42) (so I can sell my niece? she's not an Israelite.)
Basically, if you're going to pick apart that it is an "abomination to lie with man as one lies with woman", might want to go through your closet and your pantry and your whole life, because you can't follow one Leviticus order and not the rest. I want you to tell me definitively how you can only follow one of these and still claim to be following the Bible and God's Word. Until you can do that, your argument is invalid.
~6. "Thou cannot remove the mote in thy neighbor's eye without first tending to the plank in thine own."
~7. I am a Libertarian. Yes, the government should protect the general welfare of her people--against outside tyranny, against outside harm; all else should be up to the states as a guideline and the individual. I have guns, I am all for legalization of marijuana, I am all for marriage equality. You don't want to wear your seatbelt? Don't. That is your right as an American to make that choice for yourself, as an adult.
~8. Marriage is a legal contract between two people. Holy Matrimony is a religious contract between two people and God. Separation of church and state? Easy. It has nothing to do with God unless you want it to.
~~
You know what? To most of you raging Christians, nothing I've said makes a difference. You'll still thump your Bibles and tell me that I'm wrong and that I'm going to Hell. I don't do religion. I don't do churches. I do God, the Great Spirit, the Goddess, the Divine Creator. S/He and I talk...well, I talk, S/He listens. And sometimes, S/He answers with a little bit of help that I so desperately needed.
So, if I am going to Hell?
I'll be sure to save you a seat.
Cheers,
Steph
Friday, January 16, 2015
Winter Weddings
I know what you're going to say:
"But Ms Dreamer, you're already married to Mr Realist!"
And I'll say, "But my bestie is getting married in October, and I was playing with what I would do if I were to marry Mr Realist again." And I found Weddington Way
So I went to their site, and created a new bridesmaid look.
The Dress
(here's a screencap)
Obviously, it's got a bit of a Grecian feel to it, so I went with it.
But then I realized that one needs shoes. So I goog'd them.
These Kate Spade ones just reached out to me, and said "Pick me!" And since I'm not a heel-wearing kinda girl, I picked some that were shorter but still lovely. (they are navy, I swear)
Ok, so great dress, great shoes. Need fun jewelry.
Yeah, I stuck with the semi-Grecian theme -- swirly armband and earrings. The way the neckline is on the dress, I couldn't see putting a necklace with it, and I think it works. A simple silver bangle would be my gift to my bridesmaids.
Now, it is winter after all, and I can't imagine the chilliness of chiffon and lack of arm coverage. So I added a wrap.
Just a simple, navy pashmina wrap/shawl to match the shoes.
And the flowers...those, I can't decide on. But I like these.
How am I going to carry my lippy, phone, ID, and money during the reception, you ask?
In this fun, sequined clutch!
So, we've got the dress, the shoes, the flowers, the accessories...what are we missing?
Hair & Makeup! (Oh yeah...I did).
I'd want something elegant and simple for both hair and makeup. And I found Keira Knightly's (or someone who looks like her) picture for Makeup:
Something fresh yet classy.
So we have makeup. What about Hair?
I thought about this. Fun, flirty, and still elegant. Quasi-messy updo, anyone? How about we throw a small braid in, just for kicks.
Here's everything all together :)
I love it!! Do you? If not, that's ok. This is just one of many designs that I would put together. What would you add/remove/change?
Now all I have to do is convince Mr Realist that we need to have another wedding.
Smooches,
Steph
**This post was inspired by Weddington Way! If you're looking for some awesome chiffon dresses (or just in general), go check them out here :)
PPS: all images are using the Googlenator under "navy kitten heels", "silver swirly jewelry", etc.
"But Ms Dreamer, you're already married to Mr Realist!"
And I'll say, "But my bestie is getting married in October, and I was playing with what I would do if I were to marry Mr Realist again." And I found Weddington Way
So I went to their site, and created a new bridesmaid look.
The Dress
(here's a screencap)
Obviously, it's got a bit of a Grecian feel to it, so I went with it.
But then I realized that one needs shoes. So I goog'd them.
These Kate Spade ones just reached out to me, and said "Pick me!" And since I'm not a heel-wearing kinda girl, I picked some that were shorter but still lovely. (they are navy, I swear)
Ok, so great dress, great shoes. Need fun jewelry.
Yeah, I stuck with the semi-Grecian theme -- swirly armband and earrings. The way the neckline is on the dress, I couldn't see putting a necklace with it, and I think it works. A simple silver bangle would be my gift to my bridesmaids.
Now, it is winter after all, and I can't imagine the chilliness of chiffon and lack of arm coverage. So I added a wrap.
Just a simple, navy pashmina wrap/shawl to match the shoes.
And the flowers...those, I can't decide on. But I like these.
How am I going to carry my lippy, phone, ID, and money during the reception, you ask?
So, we've got the dress, the shoes, the flowers, the accessories...what are we missing?
Hair & Makeup! (Oh yeah...I did).
I'd want something elegant and simple for both hair and makeup. And I found Keira Knightly's (or someone who looks like her) picture for Makeup:
So we have makeup. What about Hair?
I thought about this. Fun, flirty, and still elegant. Quasi-messy updo, anyone? How about we throw a small braid in, just for kicks.
Here's everything all together :)
I love it!! Do you? If not, that's ok. This is just one of many designs that I would put together. What would you add/remove/change?
Now all I have to do is convince Mr Realist that we need to have another wedding.
Smooches,
Steph
**This post was inspired by Weddington Way! If you're looking for some awesome chiffon dresses (or just in general), go check them out here :)
PPS: all images are using the Googlenator under "navy kitten heels", "silver swirly jewelry", etc.
Friday, April 11, 2014
Fashion Friday?
I've been taking pictures of my outfits this week (since Wednesday, at least) to show you my style. I definitely don't follow fashion, and I wear what I like and what is comfortable.
Wednesday: Dress and Cardi from Old Navy; shoes Eastland from Zappos.
Size on dress & cardi: XXL; shoes: women's 9.5 wide
Thursday: white V-neck tee (stolen from husband), super large scarf tied into a vest (thrifted), dark jeans (Cato), brown Airwalk sandals (Payless, about 8 years old)
Size: tee, 2XLT; jeans, 20; sandals, men's 8
Today (Friday): white V-neck tee (also stolen from husband), navy tank dress w/waist tie (Old Navy), teal zip-up hoodie (Fashion Bug), brown Airwalk sandals (see above). It's chilly in my office today, so that's the reason for the hoodie.
Size: tee, 2XLT; dress, XXL; hoodie, 2XL; sandals, men's 8.
I take these photos to remind myself that I can still dress comfortable and cute and covered and not have to be all "if X skinny model can wear this belly shirt, so can I!" (I don't want to see your belly. Hell, I don't want to see MINE!).
Although, in the first picture, I do need different shoes. Found the CUTEST pair of oxfords at Torrid...I want.
It's either those or a pair of nude flats from Payless. I'd also like a pair of Keds that I can paint, so I'll get those as well. :)
My favorite outfit is today's. What's yours?
Size on dress & cardi: XXL; shoes: women's 9.5 wide
Size: tee, 2XLT; jeans, 20; sandals, men's 8
Size: tee, 2XLT; dress, XXL; hoodie, 2XL; sandals, men's 8.
I take these photos to remind myself that I can still dress comfortable and cute and covered and not have to be all "if X skinny model can wear this belly shirt, so can I!" (I don't want to see your belly. Hell, I don't want to see MINE!).
Although, in the first picture, I do need different shoes. Found the CUTEST pair of oxfords at Torrid...I want.
It's either those or a pair of nude flats from Payless. I'd also like a pair of Keds that I can paint, so I'll get those as well. :)
My favorite outfit is today's. What's yours?
Thursday, April 10, 2014
Ouch...
Well, THAT didn't go as well as expected. I still have the scarf.
Boo.
Such is life. You know, I'd like to be able to write all the time, but I don't see me ever being a Single Dad Laughing (cause I'm not single, and I'm not a dad), or a Pioneer Woman or an Epbot.
I'm so flighty about things -- ADD on my knitting; I don't do book reviews because I can just let a story be a story, unless it's absolute garbage; I don't do fashion because I rock my own style whether anyone likes it or not.
So, if you wouldn't mind, tell me what you like to read about? What would relax you and take your mind off of kids and house and husband/wife and work and anything else?
Boo.
Such is life. You know, I'd like to be able to write all the time, but I don't see me ever being a Single Dad Laughing (cause I'm not single, and I'm not a dad), or a Pioneer Woman or an Epbot.
I'm so flighty about things -- ADD on my knitting; I don't do book reviews because I can just let a story be a story, unless it's absolute garbage; I don't do fashion because I rock my own style whether anyone likes it or not.
So, if you wouldn't mind, tell me what you like to read about? What would relax you and take your mind off of kids and house and husband/wife and work and anything else?
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